According to Mona Naidoo, Executive Coach and Abundant Living Expert, one of the most important decisions we make in life is who we choose to hang out with. Right now, take a moment and think about the people you hang out with the most. Who are they? What do they do? What type of people are they? What is their attitude towards life?
Have you heard the proverb: ‘Show me your friends and I’ll tell you who you are’. I didn’t think much of it when I heard it all those years ago. But, there is a lot of truth in that — we become like the people we are around the most.
We must therefore be mindful about whom we hang out with as it has short and long-term implications. The people you spend time with shape who you are and who you will become.
When I refer to who you are ‘hanging out with’, it’s not only people in your physical space but also who you listen to on the radio, what books you read and what movies and programmes you watch.
Did you know that the behaviour and beliefs of others are contagious? Just like a cold or the flu, you unconsciously catch the emotional state of the people you hang out with. Before you know it, you imitate what they do and take on their beliefs as your own.
If you hang around people who are frequently broke, then chances are you will experience the same. If you hang out with people who believe that outside factors influence their abundance, you will adopt the same belief. Have you noticed that when you are with some people they drain your energy and your pockets? My advice to you is: ‘Run as fast as you can away from them!’
Now, not to be mean or anything like that, but you have to make you and your wellbeing a priority. You see, even if deep down you know that there’s something better for you, you will get drawn into the stories of those you hang out with.
Your life will only change when you are willing to step away from the people who negatively impact you and your dreams. I love this Jim Rohn quote: ‘You are the average of the five people you spend the most time with.’
So, if you want to be rich and abundant, hang out with rich, abundant people who are kind and generous. If you want to have a successful business, hang out with entrepreneurs who run successful businesses. Do what successful people do. Watch them, study them and learn from them. You can do this in person or through books, programmes and courses.
Hang out with people who are already where you want to be. They have already learned the lessons that you need to learn, so they will guide you and there’s no need to reinvent the wheel. When you spend time with more successful people, you will be inspired to achieve those levels of success. You will know that the same is possible for you too.
A word of caution, though, don’t just follow someone blindly. Do your homework first. Don’t get taken in by all the flashy things they have. There are many questionable people out there so make sure you connect with the right people who have high levels of integrity and values. Trust your intuition.
Who you hang out with matters and will affect who you become, what you do and what you have. They will impact how you show up in the world. Hang out with people who will help you rise and who can see your magnificence.
It does not matter what you currently have or do. We can change our reality and attract the abundance we desire just by consciously choosing who we hang out with. And it starts today.
Fun activities for this week:
– Make a list of the people you hang out with the most. Note next to each one if they are helping you get closer to your dreams or not.
– Reduce time with or remove the people who are negatively impacting you and the flow of your abundance. You can do it all in one go or one at a time.
– Affirmation: ‘I am surrounded by loving and abundant people’.
Mona Naidoo is an Executive and Wealth Coach, teacher, international speaker, human behaviour specialist and philanthropist. She helps visionary women reclaim their voice and connect to their true wealth so they can make a difference in the world. Click here to join the community for conscious people who are making or want to make a difference in the world.